Being dumped by your boyfriend can be a painful experience

You see these signs, but usually you don't pay any attention to them. At first your boyfriend might start acting distant and you think he might have problems at the job or school. Then he doesn't call you as much or stop by as often. Right now you need to think of all of the little things that led up to the breakup and come up with the cause. You can't solve a problem if you don't know what caused it.

Finding out what caused the breakup is no different than solving a problem at school or on the job. 90% of it is using common sense. Think of how you have changed and how your ex boyfriend has changed. Maybe you will have to face the fact that you just aren't a good match anymore. People grow and change, you know. However, if after giving this some thought you still want your ex back, there are things you can do to make him beg you to take him back.

What you can do is use male psychology to push his hot buttons. That is how you got him to be interested in you in the first place. However before you put a plan into motion, you still have to solve the problem of why he broke up with you. Take a good look in the mirror and see if you have let your appearance slide a little. You might have taken your boyfriend for granted and started greeting him in sweats and tee shirt.

You could have gained some weight. Whatever you see in the mirror, you need to improve. Now think of your actions around your ex boyfriend. Did you become so much in love that you lost your identity? Did you become so anxious to have him make a commitment that you nagged and pushed him? It's easy to fall into these habits without noticing them.

Once you have come up with some of these answers, you need to work on the improvement. While you are improving yourself, you will stay away from your ex and that will be your first step to getting your ex boyfriend back. By simply staying away from him, you will make him think of you. That will be the first step to making him start missing you.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder and men fall in love from a distance. These are two cliches that are true. Your ex boyfriend will think you are ignoring him and that is another way to push his hot buttons. Before long he will want to know what you are doing and if you have found someone else. Your ex boyfriend will make the first contact and that is the way it should be. After all he broke up with you, so let him beg you to take him back.